Quick – answer yes or no….
My answers used to be all no!
The truth is, my inner struggle could reason me out of…
Showing up: I wasn’t ready. I didn’t like the avenues available to me to show up in.
Dive in: I was more of a sidelines gal. Ya’ know – staying in my coverup and commenting. I most certainly never really got in the “pool” – just dunked up to my waist here and there.
Stay at it: No, I would switch to something more “fun” or ruminate rather than rinse and repeat.
Now is different but only because I am different.
Here is what I did:
- Spot the ways you cope that keep you OUT of the arena. We all have tricky things we tell ourselves: There are no good men out there. I am too old. I don’t know where to begin. I deserve better so this isn’t the time. All these beliefs keep you out of the arena, no matter how you disguise them!
- Show up (again and again and again) until you get the result you want for yourself – or you die. Seriously. That sounds dark but the truth, nothing is stopping you but YOU. “Showing up is 80% of life.” Thank you Woody Allen. I say that regularly to myself and clients.
Spot and understand the ways you cope that keep you out of the arena. #Awareness
Show up – again and again and again. #Action