I didn’t know that the I’ll be happy when… mentality was a set-up.
If I had a kick ass career, my life would be complete or if I was married, the rest would fall into place. Problem was, I was missing the key ingredient: reality.
The reality was not that I couldn’t achieve all of these things (or wrong to want them), but I wasn’t living authentically.
I was doing it for perfect sake, and not for my own sake.
It all changed the day I came home to my fiancé standing in our living room telling me that we could not get married. What struck me was the WE. He included me like obviously I should know this. He left that day and I never saw him again. There I was for the first time in my life: alone. It was 10:30 pm on a Monday. I was 31 years old and clueless.
What followed was a lot of searching for answers. How did this happen? How can I assure it never happens again? I went to a lot of therapy, I exercised like a mad woman, went on many retreats, and I even saw a psychic folks—for real.
One day, on the treadmill, I was listening to Landslide (how good is that song?) and it hit me. This lyric: “Well, I’ve been afraid of changing cause I built my life around you.” Bam! Thank you Stevie Nicks!
I had built my life around other people—their expectations of me.
I decided to put in the work to find out what I wanted: a job I love, a mate that truly got me, food in my fridge that made me feel healthy, friends who enjoyed my wackiness, and a life that made me dizzy with excitement.
I set out to thrive on my own terms.
I began to surround myself with people who saw possibility. I owned what I brought to the table. I accepted that I was human and flawed and that my vulnerability was a strength. In short, I got real with myself.
I changed my own history and now I help other people do the same.
Often, we don’t know even where to begin, right? We get stuck in the same old routine and feel guilty that we want to have our cake and eat it, too.
The best part is you have all the resources you need to succeed!
I provide the other tools necessary to bake the cake (you know you love cake metaphors!). I work with women at any stage in their journey. I help them turn their breakdowns into breakthrough. I help women find and keep love. I also work with mothers and the children they love because I truly believe that all these skills are profoundly easier to learn if we begin as kids.
I consider myself the relationship guru for all the loves of your life—self, love, kids, career—you name it. It’s a one-stop shop.
I believe you are capable and deserve of having it all. I believe you have the power to create a life you love. And I am psyched to take the journey with you!
You are so ready.